“As much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously, there are some things you’ll notice about us too.”

I remember an instance when I rang the cable company to ask about upgrading my service. After some time had passed, the person I was speaking to had basically poured his heart out about his wife’s war with cancer.  I never found the information for which I was searching, but it wasn’t that important any longer. I had given someone comfort and reassurance- even if they had no idea why they felt the need to tell me this stuff in the first place.

 15 Things to Know about Empath

A very similar situation happened when I was out at a restaurant with my niece. I ordered my drink and the next thing I knew, our waiter was asking me how to handle leaving their spouse. There are countless stories like this for me, but I want to know how many you have.

Marshall Rosenberg, author of Non-Violent Communication, defines empathy as this:

“In empathy, you don’t speak at all. You speak with the eyes. You speak with the body. If you say any words at all, it’s because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the connection to with what’s alive in you.”

With empaths, as much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously, you’ll notice a few things about us too.

15 Things You’ll Notice When You’re Around an Empath

1. We are accused of being “too sensitive” or “too emotional.”

Empaths are not “too” anything. They feel things deeply- both positive and negative. They are in touch with their emotions, and yours. Though it might be harder for an empath to operate in a world designed for less-sensitive people, being an empath has several positive aspects.

2. We can’t stand being lied to.

All it takes is a simple glance in your direction to know you are lying to us. A lot of people don’t realize this, but being lied to really sucks for an empath. We feel it ooze into every aspect of the relationship…and it usually ends them.

3. Negative media images directly affect us.

It’s hard, almost impossible, for an empath to “unfeel” something. We avoid the news, and if we see something upsetting, our emotions are a mess for quite a while. Imagine feeling overwhelming sadness and suffering every single time you saw something violent or upsetting on the news. That’s what it is like for us.

4. Crowded places overwhelm us.

Empaths exist in all personality types, including introvert and extrovert, but even the outgoing ones are easily overwhelmed in crowds. The sheer force of energies and feelings you absorb is exhausting. You might like going to concerts and sporting events, but once there, you can’t wait to leave.

5. We love to heal.

Empaths want what is best for you and your wellbeing. Of course, as with all of our advice, it is only helpful if you actually implement it in your life.

6. We are sensitive to stimulants and medications.

Coffee, certain teas, energy drinks, soda- anything with caffeine makes us more anxious and agitated than the rest of the world. And, when it comes to medications, we try to avoid them as much as possible because of the myriad of side effects we experience.

7. We can only be us.

As far as honest people go, empaths are the truest friends you could ask for. We know who we are and we embrace it fully. It’s other people who seem to have an issue with our sensitive nature and honest attitude.

8. We experience what you are experiencing.

If someone we are close to is ill, depressed, or agitated, we display those same symptoms. We are so connected to what you are going through, that we go through it with you.

9. We don’t like animals, we LOVE animals.

Empaths don’t have pets, we have family members. When we see an animal in the wild, we see a soul…perfect and pure. We talk to them in various ways just as you would your best friend, and guess what…they talk back.

10. Tired, exhausted, and fatigued is normal for us.

Because we absorb so much from others, we don’t just deal with our own emotional and mental drains, we deal with everybody’s.

11. If we give advice, take it. If we take the time to listen to your dilemma, and give you heartfelt advice, just listen to it. We know what we are talking about and if you ask for our advice and ignore it, well, let’s just say it kinda annoys us to no end.

12. We are easily distracted. 

Perhaps it is due to our heightened sensitivity to everything around us, but empaths are easily distracted and tend to lose focus. It’s not a bad thing, we are simply enjoying all the small things you might not notice.

13. We can’t stand narcissism.

If you are head over heels in love with your reflection, your money, and your ego- just stay away. We really can’t roll our eyes any harder.

14. Certain sounds really bother us.

But it’s not just sounds. Certain textures, fabrics, bright lights and loud noises can really get to us. The polar opposite is true as well. Soft sounds, gentle caresses, and delicate tastes are also highly noticed, but in a pleasant way.

15. We are great listeners.

It’s true. You can tell us anything and everything about your life and we will listen. We will take that journey with you and experience all the highs and lows contained within. And what’s even better, is that we hold no judgement over what you tell us. We are there to help you, not to hurt you.

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  1. One thing to add to this about the “listening to you”…I don’t mind when someone comes to me to vent their troubles but if you notice me yawning, it’s because we’ve been down this path before. I tend to shut down and throw up my bubble when the same people bring the same problems to my door over and over again and don’t do anything to change the situation they’re in. It’s not that I don’t want to help them through their problem, it’s that I can’t keep taking their burden onto my shoulders ..especially if, like you said, they didn’t listen to the advice I already gave.

  2. My Ex used to get so frustrated when we were out! I invariably got caught up in other people’s life story, emotional traumas, advise seeking, and negative energy and it drove him nuts! I an empathis-intuitive and boy does it get me in trouble! I would get so overwhelmed with ‘others ‘ it drained me in every way! He never understood my need to SLEEP after days of social encounters. His profession called for a lot of that!! Now, single , alone, and ‘to myself’ I have finally learned my boundaries. People and think I’m reclusive, distant, antisocial and unreachable and no one wants to hear what makes me that way ! It has physically impaired me from all those years of ‘faking it’ just to please! I have Addison’s Disease (adrenal burnout!) Fibromylgia, low immune system, insomnia just to name a few and am constantly pacing myself when I do feel good enough to get out in the world or just take care of my pets! I was never awareness of my ‘gift’ until I was in my 40’s!! Now 65 (though most see me as 55) I am just realizing how to deflect and let go and retreat! Coming from a Southern Baptist (strict, Grandaddy was a Preacher!!) I was always looked at by family as ‘the weird one’, the misfit the extra sensitive one, etc. etc. etc. Not to mention ‘demonic’ and possessed by relatives and siblings who to this day have nothing to do with me! Sad but true! My saving Grace was my Grandmama who, come to find out shared my gift alaso! She was a great lady who loved me unconditionally! So, now when I do have to go out or socialize I try and keep to myself, smile a lot, listen a lot, say, “oh really? “, ” I see”, ” that’s interesting” or just say nothing at all an give a blank stare! Amusing to watch people react to that! Then again in a store, at the doctors office or other places where people don’t know me and start pouring their heart out always remarking ” I have no idea why I’m telling you all this! I don’t even know you! ” I smile, listen attentively, and simply say ” I’m glad I could be here for you! ” and move on! Ahh, what a wonderful life not can be when we understand and realize as well as accept we are who we are and we are BLESSED! IN SHORT, THATS MY STORY! And I’m oknwith me; truly!

  3. God Bless all!

  4. You have just described my entire family. Both my wife and I fit those definitions like a tight shoe. Add our daughter, whom might be double or triple of an empath compared to us. Thank you for an insightful article.

  5. This explains me in every way. Its exhausting being an empath and sometimes we have to take a day off from people and the world to heal.

  6. I absolutely love this wonderful short article. It is all so true. I am a Clairsentient. I didn’t understand for so much of my life but now I know I have a gift. Thank you for writing this! I will share…..

  7. I feel like this. I’ve always been called, “too sensitive.” I truly feel other people’s pain, sometimes even strangers. I do get overwhelmed in crowds. That’s why I don’t care for big cities. Distracted? Me… what was I saying? I will always listen to you, day or night. Just call or stop by. I can imagine walking in your shoes, literally. Animals? Crazy in love with them-all of them! 😘💖

  8. Isn’t that everyone ?? Dmefinitely tis me…

  9. Wow! I find this to be very true for myself. When I drink too much coffee now or too much of a stimulant is definitely need for an anti anxiety medication. Animals are family members. I found this article amazing. I loved it very much thank you for the post! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  10. Wow, that just pretty much describes me to a T.

  11. I know I am an empath and I would like to hear from others like me .

  12. This is so right! I think it’s the best description I’ve ever read. For years I thought it was a curse being like this in this cruel world. But I’m learning how to focus on the positive aspects, especially the deep connections we can have with the beautiful animals.

  13. It’s so odd how people I never met will tell me their life stories. I don’t ask them for it. I worked at a shopping center in the management office, and one day three different women were crying in my arms. Sometimes men also tell me about their lives. I’m not so sure about all the items listed above, and don’t really believe I’m empathic. I just think people don’t get a lot of respect or get listened to much on a daily basis. All it takes is a little politeness. I’m not just a sap, or someone with an unhealthy desire to include themselves in a stranger’s drama and I don’t necessarily always believe what they say. But it still keeps happening, and the best thing to do is just be kind.

  14. I experience all these. It’s incredible. Yes I find that many people talk to me, telling me their issues. My mother is also an empath. I was three months pregnant and started to feel woozy and sick whilst lying on the sofa watching TV. The next thing I know, my mother suddenly says that she is feeling nauseous and dizzy. I told her I too was feeling the same. We’ve completed sentences for each other, even understand the full conversation without verbally finishing it. I have had many people come to me for advice. People older than me too.

  15. Oh my gosh this is me to a T!!! I knew I was overly emotional and I could feel other people’s pain. So glad I am not alone. I am also extremely sympathetic.

  16. Sometimes I get tired of my family asking if I have ran out of my antidepressants which I take for neuropathy. I can just feel sadness in a place or person and tear up. And, yes, everyone wants to bend my ear and discuss their situation. I have always thought that being a nurse was kind of a religious thing for me. I prefer to be at home, alone with my fur children.

  17. Best idea EVER!!!! We need to start a page for empaths!!!!’ I only know one other person who truly might be an empath. It would be nice to have a community to talk to!! I have waaaay to many stories to even type. I have noticed the more I embrace it the more intense it gets. Luckily I’m in a place now to use it as a gift although it’s a gift no one understands or most of the time even believe. Like my mom and that sucks. Especially when she was always the one telling me I was too sensitive growing up. So much love for all you Empaths out there. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  18. I believe the last thing you mentioned is of paramount importance.

    “The best thing to do is just to be KIND.” Always. No matter what.
    And if I may, I believe you are empathic, bc your unexpected experiences with strangers is typical for people who embody empathy.

  19. Thank you Debbie for your time to read…

  20. Where can I find more info on this subject??

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